devika asks :

what should i do to have sex with my boyfriend.....i m still a virgin and dont know the technique to woo men......should i watch porn with him or just invite him to my house and b waiting naked.....pls help me...what should i wear....

Yin replies

When you say you need to know how to woo men - do you mean get your boyfriend feeling aroused, or do you want to go out wooing more men?
If you’re thinking it’s about time you got more intimate with him, maybe the best place to start is to let him know - either by talking to him or next time you’re together, wait until you start kissing and then make obvious signs that you want to go further, using your body, pressing up against him, touching him and unzipping his trousers.
It won’t take much for him to guess what you’re up to ¬ and if you think he’s in any doubt, start using your mouth instead of your hand to un-do zips, buttons, pants - I think that inviting him to your house and greeting him naked could be brave - if he has no idea you’re ready to have sex, it may surprise him so much that rather than turn him on, it shocks him and then he can’t perform.
Wear whatever you feel most comfortable in - regardless of what a man likes, he’s going to be most turned on by your confidence, so you’ve got to feel good about yourself. Music might help, songs or beats that make you feel horny.
Don’t over-plan it. If you build it up too much, one or both of you could end up being disappointed.

Yang replies

Yes - watch porn to teach yourself how to have sex. Please, don’t do that. It’s not for real and certainly won’t give you a very good idea of what it’s like the first time.
Make sure this guy is really who you want your first time to be with and be careful you don’t turn it in to an event rather than a natural progression.
If you’re ready to have sex with him, let him know but don’t plan the first time without giving him some hint it’s on the cards.

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