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19-11-2007 10:20
Nik and Eva Speakman are life coaches who have fabulous lives and are helping the rest of the World be as happy as they are. The couple guide normal business people, to teens, to celebs in life decisions, help them conquer fears and even help them to get over things that have happened in peoples pasts that may be holding them back.
I spoke to the millionaires about what they do, and about a book they have wrote that is out today, (19Nov07).
Before I asked any questions the pair gave me a general idea of what they do on a day-to-day basis:
Eva: “To give you a run down on what we do, because what we do is really varied, basically we change people’s lives. I’ll give you key examples along the way, we had a lady who came to see us who thought she smelt, and she thought she had really bad body odour and she was bathing in bleach twice a day and she came to see us and her life was completely miserable she was just totally taken over with this thing, in one afternoon we treated her and her lives just begun again.
We worked with people regarding confidence issues. We talk about confidence in the book and the great thing about the book is it is step 1, step 2, step 3 and this is what you do. We treat a lot of celebrities and a lot of soap stars and it’s amazing because you would think that they’ll be really confident and really proud of themselves, when in actual fact that they are In their character and really professional and confident at being actors but when it comes to being themselves they have got an issue.
Pretty much everybody who have come to see us who has a confidence issue it stems back from childhood, or youth or teenage years and relationships. We’re just treating a lady who has been in three really violent relationships and felt that the fact she’s managed to get into three violent relationships, it must have been her fault and she must have deserved it. That was were she was at and at an all time low, she thought her life was worthless and since we have started working with her she is doing fantastic. She now knows that it’s not her at all. We believe that violent blokes look for the victims, the nice person and the sweet person, that will allow it to happen and that’s basically it.
We also do something which is learning to love themselves and some people just don’t they can’t even bare to look in the mirror for longer than a few seconds. We did that in our second series with a lady called Belinda. We deal with phobia’s that can be from rubber to foil to spiders to sex to body hair phobia’s are huge we do all sorts of them. You would be amazed, paper clips, the most amazing things. We treated one lady who had a fear of unvarnished wood, which was another one in our series.
We have dealt with fears such as, flying, blood, cats. Addictions such as, shopping, alcohol, drugs, cigarettes chocolate, you name it – pretty much everybody’s got some sort of an addiction. We help people to put their lives in balance so we deal with a lot of business people who feel there’s just not enough time in the day to do their job and spend time with their family and to enjoy life so we do all that we do health, we help people to lose weight, help them to healthy eat, we blood test people to give them a blood group for their diet because we’ve read up about different foods affecting different blood groups.
We work in schools as well with young people and with underprivileged kids who we go and see them and we teach them about body language and positive terminology which again is in our book, and how the words we use can have a huge impact on how we feel and panic attacks which was something we treated Kim Ryder for in our second series and we also do something called perfect partner, basically a lot of people that work, business woman, woman that are in the public eye as well, celebrities they really struggle to find the right guy and a lot of that is just down to the fact that they don’t really know what they’re looking for, so we work on that and that’s pretty much a run down on nearly everything that we do.”
Nik: “One thing that is interesting about confidence though is, as Eva said is it starts from the school playground unfortunately where maybe you have a party and there’s someone you don’t want to invite in the playground and because you have not invited them to the playground they will call you; fat or ugly or horrible or just say something that has got no meaning in it or truth what so ever, they are just saying it to lash back because they weren’t invited to the party that can then be lodged in your subconscious mind and you could end up believing that for the rest of your life which is ridiculous but that’s how some things happen.”
Eva: “Also is something that struck us quite a few years ago and we touched this is the book is that something might happen to you at age 8, I mean I was bullied at school and so was Nick I had no confidence when I first met Nick, now I’ve just got no problems what so ever. I remember at school that some girls called me fat so I just thought oh my god I must because why would anybody say that to me – that’s just a horrible thing to say so I believed it. I went through my teenage years thinking I was really fat and ugly and carried that through to when I first met Nick and it dawned on me that this happened to me when I was about 11 or 12 and at the age of 21 as a young woman I was believing the advice of an 11 year old kid, which is what I was and these other children were and now, if you were ready to go out the last thing you would do was go to primary school to a 10 year old child and say ‘how do I look?’.”
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