Aside from the typical ‘hey, how are you’ and ‘how was your day’ questions, there are a few that you’ll need to ask to find out about your new man.
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You’ve got to show genuine interest, yet be tactical so that you can get to the bottom of all the important aspects.
Here are 6 questions you should be asking on a first date and why you should be asking them!
1. What do you like to do to chill out?
It’s important to ask this for obvious reasons. If he likes to go mountain biking to beat the weekend boredom but you’d rather slob on the sofa then you’re going to have a problem.
Finding out his hobbies will give you some idea as to how compatible you are so make sure that you nail it on the first date.
2. What job is it that you do?
To him, this sounds like a normal question but for you it can be pretty telling as to what kind of guy he is.
Certain personality traits come with certain careers so if he says he is a lawyer, no doubt he’s very organised but he’ll also be naturally quite argumentative.
This conversation will also point out how important his job is to him and whether he has enough time for you as well as his job.
3. Tell me about your family
Figuring out what relationship he has with his family is always important. If he’s had a great relationship with his parents and you do to then you’ll likely get on great as you’re on the same wavelength.
If family is a massive part of your life but not so much for him then he might find it hard to understand your closeness and it could drive a wedge between you later on in the relationship.
4. If you could do anything in the world, what would it be?
Without actually asking him, you’re basically trying to find out what his aspirations are. If he says sit at home on the sofa and watch his favourite movie on repeat then you know this guy isn’t going places.
If he’s got a master plan then he’s likely to share this with you, not only to impress you but also because he genuinely believes he can pull it off – which is an attractive quality.
5. How long have you been on the market?
They say to never talk about ex’s on a first date, and this question manages to avoid that whilst still giving you an indication as to how successful his relationships have been.
If he starts to cross into forbidden first date conversation territory then calmly and quickly divert the subject so that the date doesn’t become awkward!
6. Where does this date rate on your first date scale?
Not only is this a little flirty but it also gives you an indication of how well the date went and what you did right.
If he enjoyed it that it will naturally lead to him asking if you’d like to do it again, if it doesn’t then you’ll know that you tactics weren’t on form – no love lost!
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