Caroline Brealey has come up with some top relationship texting tips; we take a look and give our own interpretation of why they are her advice is important to take on board!
Relationships on Female First
Use their first name
Ditch the ‘hunni’, ‘babes’ and ‘chickens’ they can come across as patronising- perhaps something you could call your child or your best mate but not your potential partner. A first name is more personal and shows that you have remembered it!
Don’t over-abbreviate
This is something that we associate with being in school- because you thought it was ‘cool’. Well the verdict’s in and is not! It gives the impression that you don’t know basic grammar and that you haven’t mentally grown up beyond your teenage years!
Ask questions
You don’t have to act like their counsellor, asking them probing questions about their feelings and their past- but some light-hearted questions about what he likes to eat, drink and where he wants to meet for dinner are all good ways to keep it going back and forth.
Text before a Date
68% like to receive a text before a first date- it is a good way to exchange some details before you meet so you have something to talk about! It may feel like you know him a bit better so you’re not going into it blind!
Don’t over analyse
Don’t read too much into the messages you get before date-remember they don’t take into account facial expression or tone of voice- so something you think is offensive might have been meant tongue in cheek!
Remember Break Up Etiquette
Don’t use this as your break up method of choice! At least tell him to his face and remember how you might feel if they were to do the same to you!
Don’t drink and text
Drunk texting can lead to inappropriate messaging, needy texts or giving you the courage to say something you wouldn’t normally. They almost always end in tears and apologising- so if you get a little tipsy- hide your phone in your handbag!
Avoid the texting game
Reverse psychology and mind games is not fair on the guy- men are very straight forward creatures- they tend to be ‘what you see is what you get’- so extend them the same courtesy.
Wrap it up
The waiting game- wondering what he is doing which has delayed your reply can be exhausting. Be clear about your timetable and let him know if you are busy and that you can talk to him at another time and he should do the same.
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