The second chance is often the most difficult decision to make. There are a lot of factors that often need to be taken into consideration and most of the time there isn’t a straight forward answer.
As we’ve seen with the Kristen Stewart and Rupert Sanders affair, both their partner’s have kept very quiet and mostly out of sight.
Not only does the person who has cheated, and most importantly gotten found out, ashamed but the partner who has been cheated on often feels ashamed too.
Feeling like you’ve been made a fool of will lead to anger, upset and feelings of inadequacy, making it even harder to come to a decision about what to do.
When we polled our readers, 32 per cent of them said they wouldn’t give a cheater a second chance because ‘once a cheater, always a cheater’.
It’s not surprising that some people feel that way, and by letting them go they are giving themselves piece of mind that they can’t hurt them again.
However, 24 per cent of our readers thought that they should be given a second chance because everyone deserves one.
If you’re able to move past it and put it fully behind you, without bringing it up again and trusting that they will make it work the second time round then why shouldn’t you give it another go?
The majority of our readers were sat on the fence. Forty four per cent said that it depends on what the circumstances were as to whether they would give their partner a second chance.
There are a number of reasons people will cheat, ranging from the silly excuses such as ‘I was drunk’ to the more deep seated feelings of unhappiness in a relationship.
If you’re unhappy in a relationship then that doesn’t have to spell the end. If you’re accepting of the fact that you were in the wrong and made a genuine mistake, you’re more likely to be forgiven but the relationship may take some work.
Couples counselling isn’t something to be shunned or to be ashamed of. If you’re both unhappy it can give you a chance to air your feelings and resolve your issues, allowing you to remember why you fell for each other in the first place!
relationships are never simple, and making them work is even less so! Just remember to evaluate the damage and assess whether you can truly work through it to putting the cheating behind you before you make any decisions.
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