Being on top during sex sounds like an easy position – you straddle your partner and move your hips, and he’s super excited to get to stare at you up there. 

Sex on Female First

Sex on Female First

Unfortunately, it’s not as easy as you think. Where do you put your hands? Should you stare him in the eye or keep your eyes sensually closed? Are you… hurting him? On top of all of those questions, being on top can easily make you feel super vulnerable. There’s no hiding your exposed belly, boobs, and the double chin that angle will give anyone. And let’s not forget it takes a lot more work than missionary or sex from behind. Then, finally, just when you think you’ve cracked it, his penis slips out and you have to start again. It is not surprising that girl on top is only the UK’s third favourite position, according to survey by online sex toy retailer Lovehoney, with 18% of couple naming it as the best (doggy came first, followed by missionary). Here Lovehoney’s sex and relationship expert Annabelle Knight gives 7 tips on to make the most of being on top.

Go back and forth instead of up and down - swaying from side to side rather than bouncing up and down can be a lot more exciting for him. Some men complain that too vigorous bouncing hurts the penis and it is also much easier for him to slip out. You need to try out different movements when on top a few times to figure out what feels best - but it is a great way to add variation to your sexual routine and increase your chances of a great internal massage for G spot pleasure.

Try the reverse cowgirl - you’re still on top but instead of being face-to-face with your partner, you’re turned around with your backside facing him. You will experience fewer problems with him popping out.

Make him sit up instead of lie down - you can improvise here using something like a chair for your lovemaking - so you’re straddled on top of your partner and he is facing you with his back resting on the chair. It’s great for intimacy and means you can kiss as you are making love. You can also adopt this position in bed - he just needs to pull himself forward, use well placed pillows for additional support.

Lay on him - this is also great for added intimacy. You are lying chest to chest and you can either carry on kissing as you make love or rest your head to his side. Bend your knees so you’re not putting all your weight on him and you can prop yourself up using your forearms.

Stay focused - With sex on top you’re in charge and your partner moves with you. Concentrate on moving your hips and staying in rhythm with your partner.

Add some toys to the mix - he stays lying down and you introduce a bullet vibrator into the proceedings. You work yourself while gently rocking and he happily admires the view.

Keep your legs in-between his - the natural position for a girl on top is to have her legs outside his. However, for really deep penetration, position your legs inside his. This also stops him slipping out and increases intimate contact.


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