How is it possible to be in love with someone and then just like that not want to be with that person you love any more. Most girls have experienced a break up in their life time and some haven't been the easiest of experiences. Completely in love one minute and then all of a sudden your world comes crashing down to the point where you can see no way of moving on.
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The type of break up any girl hopes for is one where you can happily drop off each others belongings (except that one jumper of his you practically live in on comfy days), kiss each other goodbye and treasure the memories you both had together, an amicable break up right?
But no, in reality you throw his things into the bin and sob for days on end, eating everything you shouldn't now you are back on the market. You sit there each day and scroll through his Facebook and twitter for some hint of misery and regret, why shouldn't a guy and a girl who have very much been in love be friends?
Well because girls will be girls and as soon as you officially break up, you become crazy, sadistic demons who want to make his life a living hell. As a female we can not deny that we can be extremely jealous he is moving on and you pretend you are okay by going on countless nights out, become beyond drunk and sit in the corner crying about how much you miss him.
Although still having someone you feel so strongly about in your life is not going to make things better, having a good mutual break up and still being friendly is something every girl wants deep down.
There is only a handful of girls out there who can truly say they are friends with all of their ex's, the rest can't even say their name without spitting out words of hate, so here are some helpful tips to help towards an amicable break up.
Always be honest with each other-You are often too proud to say how you really feel and admit you are heartbroken. Even if it was your decision you can't bring yourself to admit you are hurting. Being honest and open about how the break up has made you feel will comfort you, you both know exactly what each other is going through. If you aren't in love any more or sick of arguing then be honest and perhaps that will lead to a healthy break up and possible friendship, otherwise you will end up resenting each other. Perhaps tell him why you didn't work out or if he has ended it ask for answers because a break up should be something you can learn from.
Don't just expect to be friends- As soon as you are no longer an item you can't expect to hang out or even text and call as much as you used to. If you expect this then you will just become bitter and frustrated. It does take time and a lot of effort but if you loved him enough and besides the disagreements got on with him enough, it will have to happen gradually.
Steer away from social networking- If you are still very much in love then don't rule out reconciling in the future, be classy. It is hard when you are angry not to go on a social networking site and voice how much you hate your ex but what will it resolve? Nothing.
Focus on something- if you are sat there in your room staring at the same four walls then obviously you are going to be over thinking and miserable. Why not go to the gym or get a hobby? Going on countless nights outs is fun of course but it is not something you can keep up. If you do take up the gym you can focus your negative energy into something more positive and also get your confidence back. This will then help you have time to understand perhaps why your relationship didn't work out and feel more positive towards who you was with- be fabulous.
After a break up the last thing you want to be doing is showing yourself up and hiding away festering in your own misery. If you want to be on good terms with your ex for the sake of your own happiness then do it. There are no rules on how a relationship is supposed to end unless he has cheated or done something totally unforgivable, if he has then his loss.
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