Facebook and Twitter are often credited for making long distance relationships more bearable as they can be used as a constant line of communication but what about when it’s all over?
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It used to be that when you’d split from your partner you didn’t have to face them again, if that’s how you wanted it.
They could potentially be out of your life forever and you could make a clean break and fresh start.
So do social networks like Facebook and Twitter make a clean break impossible?
Most would say yes. Of course, there are certain measures you can take to block an ex out of your online life but there’s always the possibility to go and snoop around profiles and see how they’re coping with the break-up.
Not matter how badly things may have ended, there’s no denying that you’ll want to see how your ex is dealing with it.
All it takes are a few clicks to see what they’ve been up to, who they’ve been seeing, what they’re doing, but do you really want to go down that road?
We mostly want to check up on our ex to see if they’re dealing with the break-up in the same way we are.
Are they mourning the relationship? Feeling down because things ended? If they feel the same as we do then it’s rather comforting.
But what if they don’t feel the same as we do? By checking your ex’s profile you run the risk of only doing more damage to your emotions.
Say you split up with a guy, you haven’t got another boyfriend yet because you’re still upset and you’re generally feeling quit down.
You go and check your ex’s Facebook profile and bam. He’s already in a relationship again and looks like he’s having the time of his life.
Not only does this confirm your worst fears but it makes you feel inadequate and leaves you feeling worse than you did before.
It opens fresh wounds and you start the mourning process all over again.
Not only this, but Facebook makes it so easy to connect with an ex. Wherever they are, however long ago you broke up, it just takes one simple message to connect you again.
It might seem insane to think that social networks can do so much damage to our relationships but with them being such a big part of lives now, it only makes sense that they can have such a strong effect on our relationships.
Our advice? When it’s over, block and delete him from any part of your social networks and ask him to do the same, that way you’ll both be on the same page.
Never ask your friends to check up on him because you can’t, that’s putting unfair pressure on them and you’ll quite likely dislike what you hear.
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