So many people who have engaged in ‘friends with benefits’ relationships end up getting hurt because there are no ground rules other than having sex, while still remaining friends. Twoo.com has finally come up with a list of dos and don'ts in a contract, so there is no confusion about what you are entering into. Think of it as a milder form of a Fifty Shades of Grey arrangement.
‘Friends with benefits’ has become such a common thing for two people to enjoy that it has now made it into the Chambers Dictionary. Twoo.com felt that there finally needed to be some boundaries and reacted quickly, so their contract contains the following rules:
- Never fall in love- despite the film with Justin Timberlake and Mila Kunis leading you to think otherwise, this is not the aim of the game.
- Three months is all you get and then the arrangement ends, however it may be extended if you both agree.
- Once all the sex is over and you agree not to have any more coitus- you must remain friends.
- What you get up to behind closed doors is for your eyes and ears only- none of your other friends should ever find out.
- Personal possessions like toothbrushes, products, or clothes are not to be left at the other person’s house, thus making it easier for other friends to play detective and work out what’s going on.
- Jealousy is off the table- if one gets a partner- the other is not to feel jealous of the new romance.
- You must clear out before 8am and breakfast is not provided by either person, so get it on the go on your way to work.
- The pair is not allowed to date- if you didn’t do meals for two before you signed the contract- you can’t suddenly start- this makes the contract null and void.
- Public displays of affection are out- no kissing, holding hands or showing affection towards one another.
- Spooning is not permitted for any longer than 10 minutes after sex.
- Outside the hours of 10pm-4am- neither is allowed to contact the other for sex- only for things related to their friendship.
The lines still have the potential to become blurred - for instance what if you were a particularly flirtatious and tactile set of friends before- wouldn’t people notice if you no longer touched each other?
What if you live in a house share and someone catches you doing the walk of shame back to your bedroom at 8am? What if they hear you having sex? Then everyone else will know. Even this contract has its grey areas, however, for those who are thinking of embarking on this type of relationship- it is a great way to imagine if you could tolerate such an arrangement. It also ensures some clarity if one or both friends are unsure about the ins and outs of their night-time encounters.
Nick Lisher CMO of Twoo comments: “People enter into contracts for just about everything today. From getting married to getting a mortgage, we have become accustomed to signing documents that have clear rules and regulations, but what about those people who would like to have a friend with benefits.
"Often these kinds of arrangements are fraught with difficulties from the start, whether someone grows fonder of the other or if one person tells their mutual friends about the arrangement. This is why we have created this contract for both members to sign that clearly defines how the arrangement will work, what is acceptable and what isn’t; to make it easier to agree to.”