Ripley's has found that today's men and women hold onto many misconceptions that are just not true. We take a look at what beliefs people hold about relationships that are far from reality.

They always have something to do to show their love

They always have something to do to show their love

Couples who look happy are always happy- Those who put on the smiles, only talk about the good that has happened to them and say only nice things about each other have all the same problems as you do, but they like to pretend to everyone else that all is well.

Most couples have sex every day- When a couple is having a bit of a sex drought at home their immediate thought is that every other couple is having amazing sex all the time. Chances are they have also had times of no sex, crap sex or weird sex, every couple does; every pair of lovers has its fair share of ups and downs in the bedroom.

Arguments are always a bad thing- Arguments are always thought to be a negative thing, but where the real work lies is how couples deal with it afterwards. They are not always bad if they can calm down talk through it, negotiate, apologise and have make up sex.

Couples who live together have their finances in order- Just because they live under one roof does not mean that couples marginally have all their numbers sorted out. If they both have bad habits when it comes to money, then it takes time to figure out budgeting, income, outgoings and planning for the future. This is one of the most challenging things to negotiate when couples first get a place of their own.

Couples love each other's mates and families- Nope. They might tolerate their friends and bite their tongue around their family. It's a working progress that they have to learn to deal with as best they can. They are not obliged to like everyone in their partner's circle but they have to find ways to negotiate their feelings and make the best of the situation.

Couples talk about everything- Another assumption that is not true. Yes couples are around each other a lot, but for many there are still things they have yet to tell their partner. Stories from childhood, deeply routes insecurities, worries about the future. Couples don't dump everything on the table the minute they get together; it takes time to reveal some things as the trust is gained.

Couples are great communicators- Just because they live together, are married, engaged, committed- does not mean they are experts in how relationships work. Couples stills struggle with telling each other the truth in case it hurts their other half or with how to handle situations in the best possible way. It's a learning curve and every couple, no matter how old they both are, is dealing with new situations they have no idea how to cope with. They simply do the best they can with the experiences they've had and knowledge they've accrued.

Couples who talk about each other are doomed to fail- Every person feels aggrieved by another at some point- often the person who has caused this perceived grief is a partner. The truth can hurt and moaning to a friend or family member gets it off their chest when they are most angry without damaging their loved ones feelings. When they have calmed down, they can either dismiss it as on overreaction or address it if they decide it has weight.

Couples always have something to do- Just because couples have company when they get home doesn't mean that they are full to the brim with ideas of how to entertain themselves. Sometimes couples will sit up in bed on a morning and have no idea how to spend their day. Couples get bored too and no- they don't always resort to sex when they do.


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