Financial issues!
Direct Line has revealed the top nine things we would rather avoid in a relationship. We take a look at the culprits and why we think it can be easier to bury our heads in the sand rather than tackling the issue head on.
Relationship/marriage difficulties- Do we really want to open that can of worms? What began as ‘you didn’t load the dishwasher’ might turn into ‘when are you moving out?’ and we really don’t want to pull at that thread now do we?
Financial worries- We will win the lottery, or get a loan, or take out a credit card, or sell some stuff on eBay- it will be ok- we will get a windfall at some point soon…..
Issues in the bedroom- They may not be the best between the sheets, but we are still having sex which is more than some can say…..
Arguments with their other half- Why cause bad feeling when we can dodge the subject and play nice? The white elephant isn’t getting in the way that much- look- I can cover it with a throw rug!
Needing to lose weight/get healthy- Well he has not done either of these, so why do I need to? We do it together or not at all and at the moment I get to eat Chinese take-out so I would rather not broach the subject thanks.
Not spending enough time with partner- As soon as we make a conscious effort to spend time with each other we get bored or angry at one another's bad habits- let’s just leave it as it is and hope that some time with magically free up.
Ending a relationship- Being with someone is better than being alone right? Especially at this time of year- maybe the Christmas cheer will gloss over the fact that we hate each other and fool the family into thinking we are actually happy.
Deciding to quit a job/change career- As long as we are bringing in enough money to pay the bills, then it’s not all that bad is it? Besides, there are NO jobs out there!
Getting back into date nights- But it’s so much easier to put on our pjs, throw in a microwave dinner and sit on opposite ends of the couch watching TV! Please don’t make us get dressed up in uncomfortable heels and make me us our table manners!
Top psychologist Dr Linda Papadopoulos commented: “The research from Direct Line suggests that, as a nation, we are prioritising the physical tasks on our to-do lists and ignoring the important emotional issues in our lives that need fixing. This avoidance whether it’s a fear of conflict or a general sense of unease about not being able to approach or cope with a problem is one of the biggest obstacles to change, so it’s actually really important that we learn to be more pro-active about ‘fixing’ things in our lives that don’t feel right."
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