Top tips to keep the passion alive this Valentines Day!

Whether you are in a relationship, a sultry singleton, or on the lookout for love this Valentines Day, be sure to read these top tips from the UK’s leading expert Lisa Turner to ensure you have a Valentines Day (or should we say night!) to remember!

1. Keep the spark alive (that’s your sexual energy by the way)

It’s really important to remember that the “spark” is actually the tension of sexual ENERGY between each of you. Cultivating your own sexual energy will keep this spark alive. This isn’t usually much problem in the early days. At this point in the relationship you’re both usually so into each other that you can’t keep your hands off each other. To keep this new spark going try things like like, occasionally hold back, deny each other. It really increases the sexual tension!  

2.   Replenish your sexual energy regularly!

Usually what people find attractive in new relationships is the tension of sexual energy. When you’ve been together for a while you can forget to rejuvenate your own energy. Practice some sexercises such as Vajroli Mudra, which is the urethral sphincter, and Aswini Mudra, which is the anal sphincter. Both of these stimulate the sexual energy and replenish it. Self-pleasuring increases arousal, but take care not to deplete your own well. Instead use it to boost your inner tension. Your partner will pick up on this and respond accordingly.

3.   Try the ‘Tantric Kiss'

A simple trick that can increase intimacy can be the “tantric kiss”. This is where you each press your foreheads together whilst you are making love. Ideally you would both be transmuting your sexual energy up your bodies into your head so that you are exchanging love, right at the forehead. But even if you don’t know how to transmute, simply try pressing your foreheads together. To increase this energy even, more place the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth. If touching foreheads is too much for you both, try eye gazing. Relax and simply look deeply into each other’s eyes.

4.   Intimacy Rules!

If it doesn’t feel right, don’t feel pressured to try different positions or to try role-play etc. The most important part of a relationship is to have true intimacy. This might be sexual, or romantic, but might be rather mundane, where you simply feel close, connected and intimate with your partner. This is when your soul is truly happy and your sexual energy at it’s peak, so just relax, enjoy and let the energy flow!

Lisa Turner a certified trainer of Tantra, NLP, Hypnosis, Time Line therapy and NLPCoaching. She has 8 years of experience conducting training, research and coaching in relationships and sexuality. For more advice and tips, visit www.the-o-coach.com