Whether it’s your career, your kids or both that’s getting in the way of you feeling sexy, don’t despair - you really can have it all!
So you’re prepared for that important meeting, you know what day the kid’s need their PE kit and you’re all set for your friend coming over for dinner. So why is, it that sex seems to be last on your priority list? We all know that the more we have sex, the more we want it.
So it stands to reason that if we don’t treat it as a priority and find we are too tired by the end of the day, we are sure to find ourselves in a never ending spiral of being too tired and lacking desire. The key is time management.
As unsexy as it may sound you need to set time aside for you and you partner to have time together with no distractions. If you have kids, get a babysitter, if you find it difficult to get away from work, turn your phone off.
You need time to remember why you fell in love with your partner in the first place and enjoy them as a person and not as a parent or house mate.
Set the scene. Clear away any toys, nappies, washing that may be ordinary scenery. Replace with candles, rose petals and spray the air or sheets with something nice.
Scenery also includes you, so make an effort. Indulge in some sexy lingerie and put on that killer dress. Feeling confident with how you look will help you to feel sexy later as well as being a great tease for him.
If one or both of you is stressed (a major reason for a waning libido), try erotic massage. It’s is a great way to start things off. Not only is it ideal for relaxing you, it increases intimacy between you and your partner and awakens senses that may be suppressed. The Romantic Massage Kit has all you need as well as a booklet with massage tips included.
If you’re in a rut and want to spice things up, why not try some soft bondage? Blindfolds are a great way to build anticipation, when our sight is taken away, our other senses kick in to compensate.
Try teasing with a feather tickler, you can even use silk ties to gently restrain them, perfect for building up sexual tension.
Sex toys are another great way to keep things interesting, and it’s not just the using. If you shop online, you can do it in the comfort of your own home and the choosing and the waiting for delivery can be just as fun. The key is to choose something together and be open about what you desire. Who knows? You may find something new about your partner that you didn’t know!
Lastly if things have become really bad and you’re not sure how to initiate things, try a sexy game. It may sound funny but sexy games are a really good way to get things going. After all - the game told you to do it!
If one or both of you are really lacking desire I would advise a trip to the doctor to make sure that nothing is seriously wrong. However there are herbal aphrodisiacs you can try as well as lotions, creams and sprays to get things going.
Although it can be overlooked, keeping your sex life strong and healthy will in turn keep everything else in check. When you feel loved, desired and valued by a partner your desire to work together and look after each other is stronger.
Monique Carty from sextoys.co.uk
by Crystal 09th Apr 2012 16:48
Once again, we have to prioritize US, our own needs, our relationships and yes, our sex! Try mental foreplay to speed up the process so when you find time you're ready. DontTouchGame