It’s fair to say that Sex is a big part of a relationship as it creates exclusive intimacy between the two of you so if you’re going to choose celibacy then it’s something that you’ll have to talk about together.
Sharon Kell, Relationship Coach and founder of CocoMoon.co.uk, says, “It’s about being totally honest with one another and communicating that we have needs.
“For a couple in a Relationship the key is really to talk about it, without feeling uncomfortable or embarrassed about approaching the subject.
“It’s part of life and you need to be open and honest about when the time is right whether you’re a man or a woman.”
Sharon also believes that Sex shouldn’t be used as an incentive or a reward scheme. She says, “Well to me that seems premeditated, ‘If you’re a good boy you can have this’, it takes the romance out of it, to me that seems much more about the control element.
“It’s like you’re saying ‘If you’re a good boy you can have a new toy’ and I’m not convinced that sex should be used that way. It takes away the spontaneity of it all.”
Rochelle Peachey, Relationship Expert and founder of iloveyouraccent.com, believes that it actually adds spontaneity to sex, making it more excited and changing it up.
She says, “Offering sex as a reward in a relationship can be fun. Maybe you offer an evening when you dress up in a sexy outfit for him as a treat or perhaps you perform a risqué dance or engage in sexual antics that are not in your everyday sex life.
“Teasing him with the promise of something you know drives him wild can be exciting and keeps the relationship fresh. There is nothing wrong with offering a little something extra in the bedroom.”
Sharon, however, doesn’t agree with this. She believes that one person having the upper hand isn’t fair to the relationship.
She says, “I don’t agree that it spices up bedroom activity. Everyone to their own and I think it if works both ways and you both feel natural then who am I to disagree? But typically, when you’ve got one person pulling the strings then I don’t think that’s healthy because you haven’t got a level playing field. Someone has the upper hand and is pulling all the shots.”
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