The transition from ‘we’ to ‘I’ can be daunting, especially if you’re suddenly single against your will; going out kicking and screaming. Break-ups are horrible and nobody expects you to be fine straight away, but once you get used to being on your own again you will soon realise how awesome it actually is not having any extra baggage weighing you down. There will always be pro’s and con’s of being single as there are with being in a relationship, but you should always try and embrace whatever situation you find yourself in and not see it as a burden. The grass is only greener on the other side if you keep wandering over there all the time to have a peek – keep concentrating on your own lawn. You can be just as happy on your own as you can be in a relationship.
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The single life can be both glamorous and tragic at the same time, but as long as you ride through the ups and downs with a smile on your face you can’t go wrong. The word ‘single’, implies that you are on your own; one single lonely piece of the puzzle. Yet since becoming single I’ve never felt less lonely. I’m not just one singular person roaming around the earth on my own. Since becoming single I have reached out to all my existing friends, become closer to old ones, made new ones, become closer to my family and started new hobbies that have made me more friends again. I’ve never felt more connected with people and the idea of being ‘single’ or ‘alone’ just ‘one’ is almost laughable. Being single doesn’t mean you’re alone – if you’re alone it doesn’t mean you’re lonely. Being in a relationship can make you feel lonelier than ever, trapped and obsessed with only one person. Now is your chance to build a network of people and surround yourself with those who actually care about you.
Here’s ten reasons’ why being single is awesome:
1) You don’t have to care about anyone else’s feelings or opinions. You are number one! You are awesome so you don’t need to share your awesomeness with someone who doesn’t appreciate it. Whether you’re single, in a relationship or married, you should always put yourself first.
2) Not having to be groomed – you can be as chubby and as hairy as you like with no-one screaming ‘it looks like the Amazon rainforest down there!!’ every time you pull down your knickers!
3) You can eat what you want whenever you want with nobody judging you after you dribble your 10th custard cream down your chin.
4) You can get up and go whenever you want; you have no commitments so follow your dreams. If you’ve always dreamt of living in Alaska tending to the polar bears, then go do it girl!
5) No-one can tell you that you’ve spent too much money on shoes.
6) You can re-discover yourself and what you like doing, not following someone around – being able to watch Sex and the City on repeat every evening with nobody telling you to chuck them the remote because the football is about to start.
7) You have time to do the essential things – like painting your nails or reading that book you’ve been meaning to read since 1998.
8) You can learn to be a strong independent woman and look after yourself, so that if it does all go tits up again you will be strong enough to be on your own and not just settle for the next person that comes along just to have someone to depend on and look after you.
9) You now only have one set of parents to worry about.
10) You can enjoy and indulge in the most important people in your life – your friends
Being in a relationship is not the be all and end all of your existence – you can still have a life filled with people that love you; family, friends & lovers, you don’t need to bring yourself down because you don’t have a specific person in your life – If anything life is too long so be patient and your time will come. Being single is awesome and you are number one; the leading lady in your very own show, called life.