One Pulse has found that 28% of us are stressed out on a daily basis. If that's not bad enough- when you pair two stressed people together in a relationship this number might be higher as you share your stresses together.

Relationships on Female First

Relationships on Female First

We take a look at the common things that stress couples out and why.

Finances- There's always the worry of if you will make ends meet as a couple. Any unexpected bills for the car or house can have an impact on your joint savings and disposable income. You seem to live in a perpetual state of worry that things might go wrong with essentials you can't afford to fix.

If one of you is on a lesser wage than the other; it can feel like there is pressure to get another job- perhaps one you don't enjoy just to balance out the joint income. On the flip side, the one who earns more may feel pressure to stay in a job they dislike purely for the money and are afraid of what will happen if they take a significant drop in wage to explore other options.

Finally, there is generally one partner who likes to spend and one who likes to save in many a partnership. This can put a huge strain on the saver in the relationship as they try and have some control over the extreme spending habits of their lover and attempt to save money. The couples that consist of two spenders constantly live hand to mouth and are never prepared if something comes out of the blue.

Employment- If you love or hate your job, it can be a strain on your relationship either way. The one who loves their job might feel that they should leave it to do something they enjoy less to have a larger wage through guilt- after all not many people enjoy what they do. The partner who hates their job might resent their loved one for finding something they don't mind doing every day while they are trapped in a job they hate.

As easy as it can be to say to a significant other to change their job- for the person who feels they are stuck in a rut- it can be hard to find the motivation or the willingness to take a risk and change.

Having the perfect body- Both of you want to look your best for yourselves and each other, but in a comfortable relationship often comes a desire to eat out or include food in many a date night plan. And so the 'comfortable' weight piles on and you begin to doubt your desirability.

You may try together or apart to get back in shape which rapidly changes habits you have both become accustomed to making them particularly hard to break.

Health- You both want to be healthy deep down and to live as long as you can in each other's company. That need can be supressed when temptations take over with an inability to see the bigger picture.

You may have seen the light yourself but worry about your partner's unwillingness to join you in a new healthy eating regime, in quitting smoking or in drinking less.

Sometimes it takes a health scare to kick start action, however the worry over your own health can be just as intense as the worry over your partner's.

The Perfect Home- There are pressures from everywhere to live in perfect surroundings. From the media, your family, neighbours or friends so couples can feel the pressure to enter into debt, spend all their savings or leave themselves little at the end of the month to keep up with others.

Despite all of these influences outside of the home, couples can forget that the most important thing is that they have each other and focus more on material goods instead.


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