This is a phenomenon I have been watching all around: young men who are approaching older women with interest and curiosity.
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Also, it happens to me quite a lot that young men smile at me, look for eye contact and try to get into a conversation and I often wondered why that is.
I wondered what they see in me, because honestly, sometimes, when I look at a young woman, I catch myself thinking: wow, time and youth pass so quickly...I wish I could still get up in the morning and look as fresh, too, but then, on the other hand, I wouldn't wanna miss all the experiences I made in life so far and of course it's natural that human faces and bodies tell from the road we have been travelling on, they give a hint on how the journey was so far, just like the vibes we are sending out show the level of contentment.
So, when talking to some of these men, I was trying to find out what it is that draws them to an older woman and it was quite interesting what they would say.
It seems young men admire older women because they have a certain poise about them.
They are confident, know what they want and what they don't and communicate it clearly. Well, I wouldn't say that is always the case, but older women of course have been through a lot already, good and bad, and over time they got to know themselves better and could find out what values are important to them, what works for them and what doesn't.
Since they have experienced already a lot, they tend to be more tolerant and relaxed and can deal better with difficult situations without being over-dramatic all the time.
They are often more sophisticated than young ladies and choose attentively with whom they want to spend time with.
That's why it feels like a challenge for a young man to get the attention of an attractive older woman, cause she is more selective and already knows better what qualities she is looking for in a man.
If it comes to a relationship, she appreciates the time with her partner. She already knows what's out there, cause she has been in previous relationships and knows the value of a good one.
An older woman is independent and doesn't need to be taken care of by a man as much as a young woman, who might still be looking for "her place in the world", where she belongs, want she wants to do... who is still insecure with and about a lot of things.
Moreover, when talking about insecurity: an older woman will show what she wants, she doesn't want to play games anymore and she's not afraid to lose a man if she expresses herself.
Also, sexually, she feels more comfortable in her skin and she benefits from a broader treasure of experience.
Last, but not least, there's another advantage these men all seem to see in older women; it's the level of communication. They find the conversation with an older woman richer, because they say that the experiences she made in life often result in more interesting topics.
And what are older women looking for in younger men?
Well, I guess, we just enjoy the fact that we are still being found attractive and that we are being admired, despite of the signs in our appearance that show we had quite a journey already, with bumps and turns, with burning fields in between and hurricanes...
...and the journey continues...with an open heart and mind.
Natascha Hagen
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