by Cara Mason |
To most, it sounds completely crazy and wouldn’t even be a consideration but a marital affairs website has claimed that nearly half of their members have been given permission by their partner to have an affair or their partner knew about the affair.
Incredibly, 30 per cent told martialaffair.co.uk that their partner had given them permission and 18 per cent said they thought their partner know about the affairs they’d be having.
Not only are these findings quite shocking to the general public, but the sites founder said this wasn’t something he was expecting.
Paul Graham said, “This wasn’t what we expected with the research. We expected only a fraction of members to say that their partner knew about their affairs but it was a near 50-50 split.
“We all assume that the majority of people would be horrified at the thought of their spouse or partner having a fling with someone else. But it seems that people now recognise that a marriage can’t answer all our needs all of the time.”
The question is, would you let your partner have an affair?
The initial thought of it seems repulsive and many would say no on the grounds that it can tear a relationship apart.
From the survey, 22 per cent said they are terrified their partner would ever find out because it would ruin their relationship, and rightly so.
Once someone has cheated, all trust has been dissolved but does that mean we should be honest about our needs and tell our partner upfront?
Some would say yes, it can work. There are obvious benefits, your partner gets have sex with another person, whilst still being married to you and being a loving, doting husband and still fulfilling that role.
It has also been said that this can actually improve a marriage. If your partner is feeling much happier due to the affair then it’s bound to reflect on your married life.
Of course, there are cons. What if your partner ends up falling for their affair? Would you blame yourself and be left with the decision of whether to let him go, or would that decision even be yours to make any more after you let the affair go on?
It’s different for every couple but the main point here is that it’s better to be honest. If you’re not happy with an aspect of your relationship then say so, you never know what the solution could be.
Have you ever let your spouse have an affair, or are you having an affair your spouse knows about? Let us know by commenting below or tweeting us @FemaleFirst_UK