Anonymous asks :
There’s this guy. I always find him looking my way or peeking when he thinks I'm not looking. When I catch him he looks away quickly and tries to be casual about it.
When he sees me looking first he tries hard to keep his eyes straight ahead or at something - everything other than me. What does it mean?
Is this happening at work, or out and about? I would be careful about responding, depending on the circumstances. At face value, it suggests that he fancies you and wants to attract your attention and send you a subtle message that he’s interested.
How you proceed depends on how well you know him really, and whether or not you’re interested. If you do know him and are not interested, I would just be direct and ask him if he is okay? Or if you can help him with something.
If you don’t know him, and aren’t interested, keep looking the other way, and don’t engage. If you don’t know him and are interested, then cast him a few throwaway smiles -- ones where you definitely make slightly prolonged eye contact.
Make it easier for him - he might be shy and might be scared off if he thinks he has to actually do all the running - not out of laziness but because he is afraid of rejection. If you want him to take the next step, make it clear that you’d welcome it!
Do you really need someone to interpret this body language for you? Of course he fancies you! I’d kind of hope that if he’s a real man, and he likes you, he has the confidence to ask you out rather than leave it to you.
Avoid doing the work for him if it does boil down to him being afraid to ask you out. Do you want a guy who is only brave enough to hint at liking you?
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