anonmous asks :
Hey I was talking to a guy like six months before n we were like chatting and talking on phone the whole day and then he said he liked me and I said the same.
Things were going good but suddenly after two and a half months he stopped contacting me, he started ignoring my messages and then things started being different n whenever I used to ask him what has happened he use to say let things be the same like they were.
When I asked him the reason he said now that 'we have nothing to talk about and moreover I’m busy with my life.' I feel so disgusted and feel like I’m a fool.. I don't know what to do. Please help me out?
When a guy starts ignoring your messages, he stops contacting you and he doesn’t want to talk about where things are going, it is time to move on.
It’s tempting to try to ‘discuss’ problems or talk, but what’s there to talk about? You can talk about your feelings but you’re clearly not going to get anything out of him. As hard as it is, you have to accept that it is possible to like someone and, very quickly, to change your mind - so perhaps this is what has happened.
He wants things to be as they were because it was easy then. You’re just pushing him out of his comfort zone. So, either push until you get what you want (and risk feeling like a fool) or step back and leave him to it.
Don’t feel disgusted with yourself though - you are in a situation that is really very common and there are lots of people writing in who feel exactly the same.
It’s very normal to want to pursue a relationship rather than give up - but some relationships just have a limited shelf life.
You are kidding yourself. You feel like a fool. You’re disgusted with yourself - it’s all symptomatic of you feeling that you’re letting yourself down. You know there’s nothing in this relationship - it’s not even a relationship.
He’s summed it up for you 'We have nothing to talk about.' So get busy with your own life and leave him out of the equation.
You’ll feel much better if you walk away than if you get forced into being officially dumped. Take the hint.
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