Distant Lover
T.T asks:
I've been with this guy for three years now and we have a 2 year old daughter. He's been kind of distant lately when he calls he tells me he's coming to see me and ends up not showing up and when he comes he is either drunk or tipsy. Now im starting to worry a lot about our relationship, this is causing a strain on it. What should I do how should I handle the situation?
Talk to your boyfriend and explain if he can't keep his promises of showing up on time then you can't trust him anymore. You shouldn't be with someone who you can't rely to turn up when he says he will, particularly when there is a child involved.
As for turning up drunk that is totally out of order, particularly around your daughter. It seems as though he is using you choosing drink over you, explain your concerns to him and if he doesn't change it's time to walk away.
This man is not the right person for you. Do you really want to be with someone who chooses drinking over seeing you and your daughter and also is happy to be around his child drunk?
Tell him not to come round drunk and if he does show up don't let him in. Your daughter doesn't need to see that and neither do you.
It's sad that this hasn't worked out when there is a child involved but for both of your sakes you need to be apart and concentrating on your individual relationships with your daughter.
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