Friends Reunited
Amanda Andrews asks:
I have been with my partner for 4 years, last year I was diagnised with M.S the beginging of this year I had a bad relapse and couldnt walk and was in hospital for 6 weeks which my partner supported me through I can walk now and he still lookes after me when I have a bad day but I don't really love him I love him for what he does for me but not in a relationship way, In August this year I met up with a guy I went to school with through friends reunited I hadnt seen him for 14 yrs but we got on really well he said he had just split up from his girlfriend of 4 years we went on a few dates then he text me saying he was going back out with him girlfriend I had started to have feelings about him a few days later he chatted to me on msn and said he still wanted to be with me etc and we met up at his and we had sex then we met up about a month later for a drink and ended up having sex he keeps saying his going to leave his girlfriend but I dont think he ever will my partner found out about one time and said he would leave me if I did it again he wants to meet tonite again I am not sure what to do???
It is cruel to do this to your partner who has cared for you through the difficult times.
Explain that while you do love him you are not in love with him and think you should split up.
In regards to this man he sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Stay away from him unless you know he is not with his girlfriend. After all would you like to be on the receiving end of this behaviour.
Do not meet up with this girl until you are certain he has finished with his girlfriend.
It sounds harsh but why would this man have a relationship with you if he knows you will sleep with him wether you are ina relationship at all. Do the right thing by your partner and end things. If you are not in love with him then it is not fair to stay with him.
You both need to be free to find the people who are right for you.
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