Married in the era of The Joy of Sex; Divorcing in the era of Facebook? Is that what you want? You, like so many other people, have used Facebook to rekindle a connection with someone - someone who you stopped being in touch with at a certain time, for a certain reason.
The problem with Facebook is that it lays all of our past temptations and feelings out there for us to re-discover, and often at points when we’re in need of a boost of self-confidence, a bit of interest in our mundane lives.
My suggestion is to look at your marriage and ask yourself why you say you’ve made it through 20 years of ‘not the best’ but you haven’t stopped and tried to make it ‘the best’. Instead, you’ve looked elsewhere.
You’ve gone backwards. I think, from what you say, even you recognise that it’s easy to think something feels right after just a weekend together.
Reconnecting with someone on the surface level of spending short amounts of time together is easy. What would it have been like if you’d married each other though?
See it for what it is - an old story that you closed a book on once. Your first love will always hold a special place in your heart - don’t pollute it by trying to make it in to something relevant to the here and now, when you’ve clearly got issues to sort out with your husband.