Drew asks :
Hi Lucy,
How can I overcome really hurtful negative comments about the sport I do?
Hi Drew,
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It is such a shame that people feel the need to make remarks about a positive action in your life- this does sound disappointing for you.
I would suggest that you channel all your focus into the thing you like doing- which is presumably the sport you speak of.
I am guessing that it could be that the sport you are doing is thought to be one better suited to women than men or vice versa. If this is the case, then people have their opinions about sports that in the past may have been played more so by one sex, however times are changing and this just demonstrates that they are maybe stuck in old ways.
Any sport requires a certain level of fitness, so perhaps focus the anger you may feel towards the people who are saying detrimental things to you in your training and your game.
The negative comments will say more about them then they do you. They are likely jealous that you have found a passion and that despite these comments you are still committed. They might crave that same kind of focus you have that they lack.
If you keep your head down and pump your energy into what you believe in then eventually they will get bored and move on. And you can be safe in the knowledge that you care about your health and your fitness enough to keep going back to it. If they have a more lax attitude toward their wellbeing then they are putting themselves at greater risk of being unhealthy in their later life. You are actually in the better position here not them.
Hi Drew,
If you are only young- putting yourself into something completely now will give you self-confidence in years’ to come. Negative people simply don’t matter now or later down the line. Who are they to judge you? What do they have that makes them so special and what have they got going on in their own lives that sets them apart from the rest? Likely nothing and that is why they try to divert the attention away from themselves and onto you.
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