Husband's Fling
Molly asks:
My husband has just informed me that he a fling 44 years ago with a work colleague.It was brief 5 weeks in total and didnt result in full sex. He has never strayed since and apart from that hiccup we have had a good marriage for 49 years .He had a nervous breakdown 3 months ago and his psychiatrist told him to tell me as he felt the reason for his breakdown was guilt and shame from that fling.At the time he had the fling we werent getting on very well. He said I was moody and this colleague flattered him and made him feel good but that feeling didnt last long and he said he realised I was the one he wanted and has ever since.
I am just shocked and dont know what to think or do. Any ideas
You have to decide if you can stay with your husband after knowing this.
Yes he cheated but it was a long time ago and he has not been unfaithful since.
You don't have to stay though if you can't forgive, take your time and imagine your life if you stay with your husband and if you leave him then make your decision.
As upsetting as this news is to you it has obviously been upsetting your husband too and he is clearly sorry.
Talk things through with him, explain that your relationship has now changed and you need some time to decide what you want to do.
If you feel you can't live with the betrayal, walk away with your head held high and make a fresh start.
If you do decide to take your husband back then you must draw a line under the situation and not throw it back in his face whenever you argue otherwise your relationship can never move on from this whole sorry incident.
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