BubblegumBlue asks :
I broke up with my ex around 4-5 months ago because I have feelings for another guy, the problem is that this guy is one of my close friends. I've had feeling for him for a while now, but I fear that if I tell him it could pull our friendship apart. I don't know what to do, should I tell him and risk our friendship or do I keep it to myself and try to move on?
Hello, Have you tried to guage this guy's feelings for you in any way? It may be easier if you knew how he felt about you for you to make your decision. Are you having these feelings becuase you are so close to him as a friend? Perhaps you are confusing this closeness with that of an attraction. Are you in a comfortable position to talk to him about this? If you are a close as you say you are, perhaps he has been havings these feelings to? It may be best to try and discuss this with him. Perhaps don't mention at first that you left your previous partner for him and try and see if he wants to pursue anything further. This could be something that you tell him donw the line of you do get together. Ask yourself why you want to be with him so badly, is it because by being with him he is not with anyone else? Sometimes we can experience jealousy just as in relationships with cross sex friendships as it is in our biology to be attracted to the opposite sex.
The reality is if you do tell him and come on strongly that you may frighten him away and lose him as a friend, but the best friendships can get through anything. However it will not be easy. If you both mean that much to each other you will find a way to get around it and that will then give you the means to move on and find someone else. It is a big risk to take so you need to be sure that you can endure such a change in your relationship. A lot of couples do class their partner as their best friend, so you have a good grounding if you do get together.