Julia asks:

My best friend of 3 years has been going out with her boyfriend for 4 months and she is absolutely besotted, head over heels the lot. We decided to go out as a foursome last week and I nearly died when I saw him, all I knew about him was his name and where about he lived and guess what he’s the father of my first child. I never told anyone who he was because it happened when we both lived away from home, I was 19 and he was 22 we had gone out together for months then I found out I was pregnant and he didn’t want anything to do with me and one morning I got up and he’d left. I moved back home and lived with my parents until I met the man of my dreams and he took my son on as his own and we’ve been happily married for 6 years. I just was gob smacked I wanted to be sick I was so embarrassed I pretended I never knew him, he obviously felt the same we both felt really awkward. What the heck am I to do? My friend has since asked us to go out with them again, I’ve made excuses but I can’t make excuses forever.