Jenn asks :
Hello, I've been spending time (2 months) with a man i met, intimately & normal activities. Hes just come out of a 5 year relationship and says he is not ready for commitment or a relationship. I just dont understand, as surly the chemistry and connection is beyond control? He has introduced to me all his friends and family and act as though we are a couple, its confusing, and i have a feeling im going to get hurt!
Yin replies
The fact that that he has introduced you to all of his friends and family is a good sign, as this is usually done further down the line, however has he introduced you as a friend or partner? If only a friend then he is playing it safe, if as a girlfriend then he clearly feels something for you.
Yang replies
After five years you can be a bit wary of new relationship, especially if you have been the one that has been dumped/ hurt. You are still in the early stages and from his point of view, he is getting everything he needs from you now without having to label the relationship. At this point you are just friends with benefits. If this is something that you don’t want then tell him that you want more. If he is not up for this then you need to look for someone else. You are also still in the honeymoon phase of your relationship so the excitement and good sex will deplete and how will you feel about him then?
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