Julie asks :
Why do people find fetishes strange/weird? Don't they always say "whatever turns you on?" I mean people seem to be ridiculed for having a foot fetish but it's extremely common right?
So why all the bad vibes? There's still a lot of shame around sex in our society so anything slightly different to the norm is going to be ridiculed. No one wants to be "that guy".
Foot fetishism is the most common of all fetishes associated with the body - and it can focus on the shape and size of the foot and toes, foot and toe jewelry, treatments such as pedicures or massaging, people going barefoot or wearing flip flops, or any form of sensory contact such as licking, kissing or tickling.
You're right it should be about whatever turns you on but people do still ridicule things like this, even though they are as ancient as sex itself.
There has been academic study into foot fetishism that considers times in history when it has been more common - foot play can be a safe alternative to intercourse and it has been associated with homosexuals at times of epidemics of STIs, so perhaps this is why it still carries a stigma.
However, if you're finding that a foot fetish causes problems in relationships (not sure if that's what you're getting at?), the best thing is to show your partner how it can make things fun, and what exactly it is that turns you on.
'Foot fetish' is still a very vague description. Pin point the points of interest and attraction to make it easier to understand. Also, it's important to make it clear you respect your partner's right to space and to refuse to indulge your fetish if they choose.
Sorry Julie, are you writing in just to say your piece or do you have a foot fetish? That's how it comes across. You're getting bad vibes from people? How does your fetish manifest itself?
You don't really divulge much information so it's difficult to know what you're after. Did you know Casanova had a foot fetish? Unfortunately, it seems that there are plenty of singles out there, held back by their foot fetish - as there's a whole website dedicated to matchmaking.
Www.footfetishpartners.net – suggesting you're right about it still being an issue for lots of people out there. Why not start your own blog about it, and have a good old rant about it. Blog by blog, you might change a few people's minds.
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