Keeping It In The Family
Chrissie asks:
Me and my partner have been together for 4 and half years, at around 2 years into our relationship we were going through a very rocky patch where we felt more like friends and I am ashamed to say during that period I had a fling with his cousin.
Me and partner got better with our relationship and have got married 8 months ago and I am the happiest I have ever been.
The thing is I have never told him about the fling I had and I feel so guilty and ashamed all the time for it.I think he does suspect something happened, but am worried what will happen should I tell him.
Please help
Is there a chance that the cousin could spill the beans? Would it be better coming from you or him?
Surely it would be best for you to tell the truth.
If you explain to your husband that it was at a bad time and the trouble you were going through. You need to get across that you have no feelings for his cousin it was a bad mistake and you would never do it again.
Ultimately though it is up to him to make the decision of wether he can forgive and forget this incident.
You did something wrong so it's time to step upa nd face the music.
Everyone makes mistakes so you've just got to try and show your husband how sorry you are, why you did it and prove you will never do it again.
You can't go on living with the guilt and paranoia forever.
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