Lesbian Worries
stacey asks:
I'm about to embark on a lesbian affair...well i say affair but my boyfriend is allowing me to fulfill a sexual fantasy of mine. We have a strong and loving relationship. My boyfriend is fine with it as long as he can join in the odd times which I havn't got a problem with.
My only worry is how the hell do I go into this? Is it a relationship or sex? Am I dating the girl?
The girl I've been seeing is in a similar sitution but her fella doesnt know.
First of all I would strongly disagree with making this a permanent arrangement.
Your boyfriend says he is fine with it but how would you feel watching him with someone else, regardless of if they are male or female?
In answer to your question what do you want from this girl? If you want a relationship with her you should end things with your boyfriend. If it is just sex make sure you tell her that from the beginning.
Also, if this girls boyfriend finds out you could both face trouble from him. Is living out a fantasy worth all this?
Only you can say wether this is a relationship or sex.
If you want a relationship you should finish with your boyfriend as it is not fair on him. If you just want sex, spell this out from the beginning and in my opinion find a girl without a boyfriend or it will end in tears.
In my opinion living out a fantasy once is fine, it is part of experimenting but to carry on sleeping with this girl is an affair on both of your sides.
Bad idea.
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