My Best Friends Ex...
Dakota asks:
A few weeks ago I started texting my best friends ex boyfiend who is 17. We got on really well and decided to meet up one night. We kissed and met up a few more times before he asked me if i wanted to have sex with him. I said yes and didnt feel preassured at all.After we had sex we decided not to tell any one as im only 14.That night I told my best friend that me and her ex had kissed and she askd him if this was true. He then told me that nothing could happen between us for a while in case more people found out what we had been doing. After that he just ignored me in school but said hello to my best friend everytime he saw her. Its made me feel used and its really getting me down,so much that i cut my wrists.I dont know what to do and i feel depressed when i see them having fun together.I really like him but he loves her and she loves him even though she has a boyfriend.I am finding it really hard and i dont want to lose any of them.Please help.
Forget this boy. If he can treat you like this then he is obviously not the right person for you.
Getting involved with your friends ex is dangerous territory and no boy is worth risking your friendship for.
You have learnt a hard lesson but unless you are in a loving relationship with a boy I would advise against having sex. Especially at your age as it is illegal and people could get in trouble.
Cutting your wrists is not the way to handle this, you are only hurting yourself and those who love you. Please talk to your parents or a doctor about this and never do it again.
You deserve someone who will treat you better.
This boy was wrong for you. If he has made you feel so bad then you should forget about him and stay away.
You made a mistake getting involved with this boy but what's done is done.
You can walk away from it now knowing that it is better to wait before you sleep with someone.
You could do some serious damage by cutting your wrists which I'm sure you don't want to do. Talk to someone like a parent or teacher about this and please never harm yourself again. Especially over a boy who is not worth your pain.
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