My Brother's Best Friend
Kay asks:
I really fancy my brothers best mate. My brother is 5 years older than me and very over protective and never likes any of my boyfriends.
Two years ago his best friend who he has know since he was 11 came to live with us my brother doesn't live at home so it was just him me and my parents.
We would flirt all the time one night he sent me a text asking if I liked him, I didn't relpy. The texts coninued, he would act normal to my face and then at night he would text me saying he liked me and that he wanted to know if I felt the same way. I did but felt I couldn't let him know because I would be betraying my brother and I was just 16 at the time.
One morning I brought up the subject he asked me if I liked him and I said no, a few days later he moved out. He would come over every so often and everything was fine we would still flirt. But we carried on with ourlives he had girlfriends and I had boyfriends but our relationships never lasted long.
Then a few months ago he moved in again and I know he still likes me we get on so well and are so alike we are both a perfect match for eachother he's moved out now. I think about him all the time and I really want to be with him but I dont know what to do. Please Help!
You do need to speak to your brother about this, not so much to get his permission but to make sure he feels ok about it.
Boyfriends come and go but family is forever. If the situation is going to make your brother feel uncomfortable I'd avoid it, after all how would you like him going out with your best friend?
If your brother feels uneasy about the situation my advice would be to move on and forget about this boy.
After all you are only young and there are plenty more fish in the sea.
As well as making sure this situation is ok with your brother you need to decide what you want out of this relationship.
A five year age difference may not seem a lot to you but you are both at different places in your life and one of you could want more than the other from a relationship.
Also you need to see if he still wants to be with you. I know it sounds harsh but he may have moved on now.
If you feel you are both in the same place and it isn't going to cause problems with your family then I say go for it.
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