No Orgasms
Inorgasmia asks:
I'm finding it impossible to come during sex or any kind of foreplay. I've always had this issue and although i'm only 19 when all of your friends happily come most of the time during sex it gets a bit depressing and i dont think time is the answer.
I am also very comfortable with my bf, I'm always relaxed and don't feel pressure to come until I over think about it every so often. I am able to reach orgasm with the aid of a vibrator, but even though my bf is happy to share the experience it never feels as close.
I'm starting to wonder whether there is something medically wrong with me as paranoid as that may seem, any advice?
First things first, there is nothing wrong with you medically.
Around 75% of women cannot orgasm by penetration alone so it is likely that your friends are exaggerating when they talk about it.
Try different things like foreplay or masterbation, the more you know what you like then you can pass this on to your boyfriend.
Don't worry about this, many women struggle to orgasm at all so be thankful that you can using a vibrator.
Don't compare yourself to your friends as that is not what sex is about. Just enjoy it. I know it sounds patronising but you are still quite young, there is plenty of time to find differnt things that work for you.
An orgasm is not the be all and end all.
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