Gee asks:

I am an older women, late 50's, I got divorced 10 years ago, shortly after I met an old Boyfriend, that old his mother gave my Mother the pram for me, we grew up together and he was my first Boyfriend, but I went off to University and he went to Canada, I did not see him again for 25 years until a chance meeting, we got together.He had never been mrried, but was quite a famous Fashion Photographer in Canada. and had had more Girlfriends than I had had hot dinners. He also had a Son, by one girlfriend who left him with the child and he brought him up and is the perfect father. 12 years ago his Mother became ill and he came back from Canada to nurse her for 2 years, so you can see his is a very caring person. He decided to retire and stay here,I don't know where to start other than to say he is a Wanker, He has all the old photograph's of past girlfriend mostly nude, he cannot stand things that are not beautiful, although I am by most Men's measure lovely, to him I am past my sell by date, he has numerious DVD's he has bought, plus the old pictures, he will not have a proper sex life with me. I have to tell him stories and mastubate him till he comes, or climb on top and do all the moving till I come. It breaks my heart not to have the passion felt for me. He has never suggested sex.I have of course given up and don't have a relationship no more, but I do love him, I have tried to explain the difference between love and lust, both have there place in a normal relationship to me. He keeps saying that things will change, but I have taken him back several times before, but it has never worked. Do you think he may have changed. He loves the fact that I am smart keep down a very good job, have a nice car etc., and he tells everybody that I am his girlfriend and also in a Male way allows people to thinks that we have a great sex life.