Porn Problems
Jenni asks:
I found porn on my boyfriends computer, I tried to tell him how much it upset me, but I couldn't, I kept it bottled up inside for months, I always checked his computer history, and alyways found loads.
Eventually, I askd him if he looked at anything like that, he said no, i felt hurt that he had lied, and then wondered what else he lies about. I asked him again a few weeks later, and he said, he admits that he occasionally looks at stuff, but he said it wasn't porn. last week I told him I KNEW he looked at it (not telling him how i knew) and he laughed, and said I was worrying over nothing, he doesnt do it that much, but know he does. I cried to him and told him it made me feel like I wasn't good enough, and I don't please him, so he has to do it himself, and he laughs again.
He still does it, and it hurts soo much to know he still does it even though i cried, and begged him not to. I havn't got the looks, or bodies they have. It's intimidating. I love him soo much, but I'm scared that one day he will never stop doing it, and I will have enough and leave him. I dont want to do that, but it gets to me soo much, what can i do?
I think you need to sit down and have a proper chat with your boyfriend.
You should tell him just how much it affects you and explain why it makes you sad.
Maybe between you you can come to some sort of compromise.
Porn is something that most men look at as harmless fun but if it is upsetting you explain to your boyfriend that it intimidates you.
Perhaps ask him to only look at it when you are not in.
It could be worse though, at least he's not having a real affair.
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