riya asks :

Hey my problem is that I’ve been talking to a guy since October 2011 and in November he said he liked me and that things were great between us - but suddenly, from 1st week of January he started behaving differently.
He was like a total stranger and whenever I used to ask what had happened, he used to say let things be like that or ignore my questions... First we use to chat like whole day n now it’s like week passes but there is no message from him and if I message him, it’s like one-way conversation in which I m trying to initiate a conversation while he is replying to what I’m asking..
I seriously don't know what happen and he said u will never know it in near future also.. I want to know what should I do wait for him?

Yin replies

From what you’ve said there Riya, it doesn’t really look all that hopeful. If a guy really wants to be with you, he’ll make it obvious - you won’t have to go fishing for conversations, attention or answers. Are you asking the right questions?
Maybe you need to change direction and ask him how much he’ll miss you when you’ve left his life completely - because it’s goodbye time. If he is bothered, he’ll put up a fight. If he’s not, you’ll get your answer and you’ll have your self-respect in tact because you’ve been the one to walk away.

Yang replies

Wait for what? Rejection? No! This guy doesn’t make any effort, he doesn’t want to talk about the future, he doesn’t reply toy our messages - would you usually make a habit of talking to strangers who ignore you?
Don’t elevate him to a higher position than a stranger, because this is how he’s treating you. If you’re waiting for him, you’re wasting your life. Every second you spend thinking about him, you are wasting that time. Move on.
Don’t even bother to tell him. Just stop contacting him and if he does finally get in touch, don’t reply unless you see at least movie-star levels of effort; flowers, gifts, messages of regret and love. Silence though, for now.

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