Sarah asks :
I'm really not enjoying life at the moment, this year has been tough. I moved back home, my Dad died, leaving us with no parents so I had to move in with my older sister. My siblings give me a hard time about being too thin too fat, too ambitious, too lazy too everything really. I have a rubbish job that I work hard at and make a real effort with but recently some of my colleagues have started sending not very nice message on Facebook, it has been dealt with at work, but now I am getting anonymous prank phone calls instead. I just don't want to go in to work. I feel like I am being picked on at work and at home and I don't seem to know what to do about any of it. A boy I like is being an idiot which is just the tip of the iceberg for me. I don't seem to be able to change anything, I feel very lost and very unhappy.
Yin replies
My first suggestion would be to call The Samaritans. They offer 24/7 support for people who are feeling they have lost some of their happiness. It sounds like you perhaps need to talk about your feelings on your father’s death and deal with that before you are able to deal with everything else. It may have been the catalyst to you feeling so down and then when everything else happened, ordinarily you might have been able to cope with it, but because you are fragile then it feels like much more of a burden for you.
Or you could go to your doctor and ask to be referred to a counsellor, who will be able to talk to you about your feelings in a confidential setting.
Yang replies
Why not look for another job? A fresh start could be what you need to rid yourself of the people causing you grief. Could you change your number too? If you are free of the prank calls then this might help to clear your head a bit. Could you get a house share with someone other than your brothers and sisters to get a bit of distance from them? Remember that they are grieving as well, and anything that takes the focus from that, even at the expense of your emotions, they will do to ease their pain.
It sounds like what you need is a new beginning in your life and anything you can do to help that along whether it is a new job, new digs or seeking help from someone professional, then one or all of these things will breathe a new lease of life into you.
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