Secretive Hubby

loner writes:

I've been married a year and I have recently had a baby but my husband isn't loving anymore. I'm paranoid he's going to go off with someone else.

We were chatting and he said he has private thoughts he doesn't talk to me about but I don't understand as I tell him everything.

We have also moved to a new country and I'm finding it hard to make friends I can trust is it worth it or should I just go home?

Yin's Answer

Your husband should be making you feel secure since you have just recently had a baby and moved to a new country but he seems to be trying to make you feel insecure.

Tell him if he wants to stay together he needs to act more like a husband.

He may just be too shy to reveal his private thoughts to you but he shouldn't make you think he is going to leave you for someone else.

If, after your talk he doesn't make you feel like you can trust him then you should consider leaving him and finding someone who does love you.

Yang's Answer

If you are not happy then you shouldn't stay but before you throw the towel in speak to your husband and see if changes can be made.

He might not realise the extent of your unhappiness but he needs to know so he can help make changes to keep you together. Couples should be able to talk to each other about everything but some people aren't comfortable discussing somethings. I don't think this is the case with your husband, he seems to be trying to wind you up by telling you he has secrets but he's not going to tell them to you. He needs to change his childish attitude and start acting like an adult and a parent.

The only thing you can do is try and talk to him and from his responses judge if you would be happier staying or going home.