Sexless Marriage
Christie asks:
I have been married for just over a year and have a four month old baby.( I got pregnant 5 months after we met.) Two months before the birth of our baby, my husband stopped having sex with me and would say he was scared he will hurt the baby or that I may not be comfotable.
I let it be... its now been 3 months since the doctor allowed us to start having sex again and he just has absolutley no interest in having sex. When we talked about it he said he is under extreme stress at work and I should give him time. He texts me all the time to say how much he loves me and feels guilty that he cannot show it.
We cuddle and kiss each night and sleep skin to skin naked but he will not be interested in sex and when i try to initiate it, he abruptly says good night and dismisses me.
What could be going on with him? Please help !!
Tell your husband that you want to help him with his stress and talking about it may help too. If he opens up and discusses it, it may relieve some stress and make him loosen up when it comes to sex.
I think it's safe to say the problem isn't you, you both still touch, kiss and talk sexily so it really will be down to stress.
Suggest having one night a week where you both but aside the stress and pressures of life and spend time with each other. Sex may not come immediately but you will get there eventually.
Explain to your husband that you understand he is stressed and you want to help but you need some love and attention too.
Explain that you are feeling rejected and unloved and he may start to show more of an interest.
Talk through his problems with him, getting something off your chest is a great stress reliever. This will then open the gates for more physical contact between the pair of you.
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