Shall I Take Him Back?
Jayne asks:
my husband of 6yrs left me and our two children to live with someone else.At first the relationship between us was awful but for the past few months we have been getting on great.
He has now left this other woman saying he made the worst mistake of his life and says he never stopped loving me.
I have never stopped loving him even after everything he put me through.The problem now is do I take him back ?
When we are together it just seems so normal even though it shouldn't be after all this time.One minute I think we can get through this and come out stronger but then I think of what he did and how much my family hate him. Do I walk away now or take a risk to get my family back ?
People make mistakes but it is now up to you to decide if you can forgive that mistake.
If you take your husband back you are saying that his affair has been forgiven and forgotten. You will have to forget about it and cannot bring it up in any future arguments.
You also have to think aboutwhat life was like before the break up? Was everything fine in your relationship, save for the affair? If not do you want to go back to that? As there is every chance it will go back to that stage.
Why do you want to be with a man who will leave not only his wife, but two innocent children? There are plenty of men out there who would not cheat so why settle for one who has.
If you take him back you are signalling that it is ok to cheat as you will always forgive. Remember, once a cheater, always a cheater.
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