Michele asks :
Hi Lucy,
My partner of 7 years and I are on a 'break', sorting things out with a view to him moving back in eventually. He is staying at his ex-wife’s house. They split up 10 years ago and she has a boyfriend. How worried should I be?
Hi Michele,
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As situations go it's not ideal. How would he feel if you were moving back in with your ex-husband? Could you suggest that he moves in with a friend or family member instead to put your mind at ease? That said if you trust him then it should not matter where he stays, even if from the outside this doesn't seem like the perfect solution.
Have you seen them together before? If they come across as good friends then maybe it's because they have a lot of history together, they have pushed past all of their differences and she is simply helping him out. If she has a partner already then it could be that she is just giving him a place to stay- if her partner is ok with it then chances are you have nothing to worry about.
It can only give you a big incentive to have him back living with you and could be the thing that reduces the length of your 'break'.
If however you feel that he has moved back there for some sort of unfinished business then perhaps take the 'break' as a sign that you both need to move on.
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