Single & Lonely

Ishioma writes:

I am a 22 year old female who has never had a boyfriend. As I get older I get more and more anxious about remaining single.

It seems like a vicious cycle because each time I attempt to get to know a man, they are not interested which knocks my confidence.

I have been told in many different ways I am not pretty enough to get a boyfriend but surely this cannot be the only reason?

Yin's Answer

For a start any man who could be hurtful enough to say you are not pretty is not the sort of man you want to be with so stay clear of them.

Having a boyfriend is not the be all and end all but someone will come along eventually you just have to be patient.

In my opinion you find someone when you least expect it so stop looking for a man and let him find you.

Yang's Answer

In my opinion you are better off staying single than settling for someone who is not the right man for you.

There isn't a stigma attached to been single, in my opinion it is worse to just be with the first man you come across so enjoy your freedom while you now have it. You are still young and have plenty of time to meet a man, I assure you, you are not going to end up an old spinster or anything!

These men who tell you you are not pretty enough, I'm guessing aren't exactly Brad Pitt so forget about them, surely you wouldn't want to be with someone so shallow.

Men can smell desperation a mile off and it is not attractive so stop acting like you are searching for love and it will find you.