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Sophie’s Guy Is Holding Something Back
sophie asks:
Hi, I'm in a relationship with this boy and he has moved up the line a few hours away from me but it is so hard to see him because of school we only have the weekends together but my problem is before he moved everything was fine we did everything together but now he has moved we don't do as much there seems to be a wall in between us like there is something missing or something wrong and he still won’t tell me why he moved away how do I get him to trust me?!!
The distance has been created by your boyfriend, and so it’s wise to bear that in mind. He may well be happy with it. It might be advisable to avoid pushing - and don’t put pressure on him, because it sounds as if he needs some space. I’m sure in his own time, he’ll be open with you.
Perhaps this wall comes from him making new friends or maybe he has been in some kind of stressful situation that has made him need to put some distance between you. Just sit tight and wait to see what happens - you can’t force someone to trust you and it might not even be a trust issue.
Maybe he just needs time. If you’re used to doing everything together, it’s obviously going to be a difficult, probably quite sad, time for you - so you’re going to have to focus on being strong and making the most of having your own company.
I’m not sure if you’re both at school or if it’s just you - so whether he’s moved because he had family reasons or because he’s just chosen to, you don’t reveal. You say he’s moved ‘up the line’? What line? A train line? And he’s now a few hours away.
So he’s totally relocated to a new area and he’s not in touch as much. Yes of course there’s something wrong - but maybe you’re just not a serious enough relationship for it to bother him.
It sounds as if the relationship is much more significant to you, so I would prepare yourself to just adjust to this new life and maybe consider life without him. You don’t want to be living for the weekends, not if you’re still at school. Hang out with someone who lives nearby.
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