Text Pest
Old rRmantic asks:
I am married to a man i really love, we have a baby girl together and we both have kids from a previous relationship and on the outside we are really really happy!
The trouble is my husband texts and emails other women (who he says are friends) he does not know I check up on him and see he has contacted them, but he lies and says he has not, I am almost 100% sure he is not cheating because i know where he is all the time but I am scared he is on the verge.
Also in the past he has texts friends of mine and has become a text pest, almost bombarding them with "friendly" texts to the point a few of my friends had words with me about it and I had to tell him to stop!!, he says he gets on better with girls...but its hurting me some much or am I just being weird?
You are not been weird but your husband is been insensitive.
Explain that you know about the texts, as you're friends have told you and tell him how it makes you feel.
Tell him that things have to change. If he won't change you need to decide if you can live with the paranoia and upset or wether you are going to walk away.
How would you're husband feel if you were texting other men, in particular his friends?!
Ask him this and tell him, regardless of wether it is friendly or not you don't like it and he needs to change or you will ahve to walk away.
A relationship is worthless if there is no trust and your husband has destroyed it. If he changes he needs to prove that he is trustworthy. You don't deserve to be treated like this so if he won't change find someone who doesn't need to change.
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