The Sex Has Gone
Chele asks:
I've been going out with my boyfriend for over a year and a half now and we have lived together for over a year. For the past few months our sex life has deteriorated and now we dont do it at all. I've tried most things to encourage him, but he only seems interested in himself. He doesn' do oral on me but asks for it all the time.
Thing is, we havent done it in such a long time that I've got to the point where I'm not interested anymore as its uncomfortable when we do have sex and has put me off. We've talked about it before and tried to change but it gets nowhere. Is there anything you can suggest?
When you do have sex if something feels uncomfortable tell your boyfriend why and change tact so your both feeling comfortable and enjoying it.
You shouldn't have to give up on sex altogether just find a way that you both enjoy and you should get back into the swing of things so to speak!
I know you've spoken to your boyfriend but try again. After all you have nothing to loose.
When it comes to oral sex, next time your boyfriend asks for it tell him he isn't getting any until he performs it on you.
That will soon stop him being so stingy.
If you're both keen to change things it may sound extreme but amybe visit a sex or relationship counsellor as they can offer practical advice in these sort of situations.
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