anon asks :
I am 24 and going though a divorce, I have a child and have recently met someone. we exchanged email addresses when we bumped into each other and have been talking none stop, he is so smart, cleaver, sexy, he is well travelled and cultured and understands about my bad marriage, my sons disability and my depression. he isn't pushy and he just gets me, we have so much in common and we just click so much. we are just taking it slow and seeing how it goes. the thing is he is 45 only 4 years younger then my dad, I have always liked older men my husband was 14 years older, but what if it does turn into something because I like him so much. I'm scared of how my family will react essentially my dad and sisters they are very outspoken. I am putting off meeting up more and more because of this worry. He works away a lot and think he knows about my concerns but I don't want to put him off. I don't know what to do for the best.
Yin replies
Family will always talk about your partners, it’s inevitable. The fact that he is older than you is just an easy target, if you think about it from another angle, better them gossip about his age rather than the way he is treating you or something about his personality they don’t like. This is a fact more than a clash of character.
Yang replies
The sooner you meet up the better as they will gradually get used to the age difference and simply see how you interact with one another. This is the most important thing. If you can show them all that you are a good thing together then the feelings about age will slowly disappear. If you husband was 14 years older than you then they are already accustomed to the fact that you are attracted to older men. The question is why? How is your relationship with your father? Often women seek older men as a means of making up for something lost with their father in earlier years. Make sure that you are in this relationship for the right reasons and not to try and capture lost time with your dad.
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