Angie asks :
Hey Lucy,
I hope you can help me I've been dating someone for over a year. Initially we both didn't want to rush into anything as we had both come out of relationships. We spoke for a few months and realised there was a connection. We ended up pursuing a sexual relationship.
After a while we became closer and he began to pull back saying he wasn't ready for anything serious so we decided to be just friends. Since then we have gone back and forth and I have even decided to end things, only for him to come back. We do like each other it's evident but as usual I am getting mixed signals and it's starting to play with my head. I really do like him, and I'm also sure the sex has clouded my judgement but how do I deal from him going forward as I do now want to be in a relationship.
Hi Angie,
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If what you really want is something more serious, then it might be worth telling him that you don't want this ambiguity in your relationship anymore.
The sex may be good, however it sounds like it is only giving you small part of what you really want.
If he keeps coming back to you, then it sounds like there is a connection there. It does seem you need to know if the only thing bringing him back is the physical side of your relationship.
If he has already said he doesn't want anything serious- if you were to try being an item- could you trust him?
Great sex can be achieved by any couple who are willing to put in the time and effort; however trust and security are hard to find.
If you think he has changed his mind on the whole relationship front then it could be worth exploring, but if you believe he is just telling you what you want to hear- then you will probably end up getting hurt.
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