Charlotte asks :
When i was 16 i was in a relationship with my ex for 1 yr and a half, we broke off because i found it hard that he wanted to go and live in Canada for a while with his friends (i didnt want to stop him from going i just found it hard to understand that he wanted to leave) up untill this point it was good but once he tolled me he wanted to leave for Canada i lost interest and the relationship broke down. I cut all contact with him imedietly and i got over him quickly! Five years on im now 21 have a degree and started a new job i reacently ran into him in a festival in the summer, we got talking again and it was like no time had passed ive met up with him a few times sinse then. But this is my problem, should i dive in there trying to re kindle things (feelings have come back strongly) or do i just brush it off as a nice to meet you, ill see you around! In the time we have seperated ive havent really been in any real relationship, not quite sure if it was because i wasnt interested or no one came along! Im stuck between two junctions in my life - do i go for it?
Yin replies
You have achieved so much in those five years that you should not give them away lightly if the decision is to move over to Canada still. You have made a life for yourself and that is a lot to let go of in favour of a relationship you don’t know will work.
If he is back over here and you can have both then maybe it’s worth another shot, the distance was the reason you broke up and if it is not there anymore then it could work a second time around. That said, he was willing to leave you once, so he might do it again; could you handle it again knowing how you felt the first time?
Yang replies
If you have not been in a relationship since, it could be because of him, it could be because you have not met Mr right yet, or it could be that you prioritised your degree above your love life; it doesn’t all have to be linked back to him.
Perhaps ask him what his intentions are for the next few years and gauge if he is going to be travelling anymore, that is if you really feel like you want to get back together.
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