Christine asks :
Hi Lucy,
Am I wasting my time? I recently met up with a man I'd been chatting to online. We had a wonderful day/evening together. However we live about 30 miles apart and this seems to be a problem for him. I didn't think I'd hear from him again but he has been in contact every day since then. We met up again last Sunday and again had a lovely time.... when we are together he is very tactile etc. and says he'd love to make love to me. I told him I would love it if he was the one I kissed at midnight on New Year’s Eve but he said that wouldn't be possible as he had plans. I was upset but then I imagined he'd made plans some time before we met. At our last meeting he said he would see me again ... yet when I invited him to a Burns Night he said he'd other plans I am confused!
Hi Christine,
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Since you have not been seeing each other for long it may be that he had plans which he made before you met up. However generally in the first few weeks/ months of seeing someone if you really like someone you make the effort to show them off to your friends and family and try to spend as much time with them as possible.
He is making the effort with you by texting you every day which is a good sign if he was not into the relationship then he wouldn’t bother doing this. He has said that he is interested in seeing you again- also a positive sign as he didn’t have to say that if he didn’t mean it.
It might be that if you didn’t acknowledge his comments of making love to him that he has lost interest. If he was only in it for sex and you have not shown him that it could be on offer soon he might have backed off.
Why not see how things go? If he does want to meet up with you let him get in touch with you. You have asked to meet up with him on two separate occasions now, without any success, so perhaps leave the ball in his court. It could just be that he wants to take things slow, or he might simply be shy about meeting your freinds. However beware- as it might be that he was only looking for one thing- in which case he’s not worth your time! Try not to let the waiting take up your every thought- carry on as normal- if he calls it’s a bonus- but if he doesn’t you can move on more easily.
Lucy x
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